tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post8821758282439817863..comments2023-04-15T09:08:04.382-03:00Comments on The Pedaling Prince: 20/20 HindsightAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05469580527099725317noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-91195458950723955832008-01-20T21:30:00.000-04:002008-01-20T21:30:00.000-04:00John,I just read your blog and can barely believe ...John,<BR/>I just read your blog and can barely believe all that I've read. Have you considered joining a codependent anonymous group. Or Alanon. You could benefit greatly by becoming a part of a 12 step program that will help you. <BR/>You have boundries that have been used and abused. Get help from a professional and do it now. You have acouple months before you make any decision. Make taking care of yourself a priority.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-11804748690898549102008-01-16T14:59:00.000-04:002008-01-16T14:59:00.000-04:00Also, if Lisa wasn't able to change in the last 11...Also, if Lisa wasn't able to change in the last 11 years, how can she change in the next two months? You have to let her go her own path and you have to go yours. If she DOES manage to change over time, SHE can fight for YOU, not her lifestyle. You might also want to consider that YOU need a break to figure out the man you want to be, before being with anyone, let alone a person who brings out the worst in you. <BR/><BR/>As far as your lifestyle, get a roommate. It's really that easy. And that hard. But trust me, it works.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-69380120215286138192008-01-16T14:48:00.000-04:002008-01-16T14:48:00.000-04:00>I know that, if I leave her, some part of Lisa wi...>I know that, if I leave her, some part of Lisa will be convinced I left her because of the wheelchair.<BR/><BR/>Firstly, you cannot control what another person thinks. You have to do what is emotionally and physically best for you.<BR/><BR/>And, more importantly, isn't it in fact the wheelchair that made you STAY as long as you have? It sounds like she both uses that as a way to manipulate you and doesn't really appreciate anything you do for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-3747440840796519502008-01-12T17:33:00.000-04:002008-01-12T17:33:00.000-04:00To your comment..."Maybe, without something better...To your comment...<BR/>"Maybe, without something better to go to and no prospects for anything better, I'm just afraid to admit this is over and end up alone."<BR/><BR/>Is it better to be with someone abusive or to be alone?? Get a dog, they are great companians, they only bite sometimes. ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-6727070426517722952008-01-12T13:44:00.000-04:002008-01-12T13:44:00.000-04:00Good luck in your search for sanity. I think you s...Good luck in your search for sanity. I think you should avoid Riin for the time being and keep your distance from Lisa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30652949.post-38780057905954178542008-01-12T10:58:00.000-04:002008-01-12T10:58:00.000-04:00John,I have followed this saga for sometime now an...John,<BR/><BR/>I have followed this saga for sometime now and you have said that in your OPEN relationship that all partners are equal. Looking at this now it looks as thou that was not the case, it looks as thou you loved Riin more then Lisa...why did you lie about this in past? Why were you not honest?<BR/><BR/>Thank You<BR/>A FriendAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com